Why Positive Thinking Isn’t Working For You or Your Business...

I get asked this question all the time, “I am trying so hard to be positive,

why isn’t positive thinking working for me!!!?”

In this article, I will tell you why achieving results requires more than just positive thinking, and how to truly make the power of thought and belief work for you…

If you are part of the mindset and positive thinking community, chances are you have heard the quote…

“Whether you think you can or you can’t you are right.”
– Henry Ford

This quote is a personal favorite of mine, and really what cracked me open years ago to what positive thinking really is and how powerful it can be. In order to shift ourselves into a new way of being and seeing the world, it has to start in our mind, with our thoughts.

This is what the book and movie “The Secret” were talking about back in 2008. However, everyone who saw the movie or read the book isn’t just jet setting and running around on yachts like they thought they would be today and I can explain why that is.

So why is positive thinking not working for you?

Conscious thinking is just a small part of creating a new you and a new reality. The good news is, I will offer you some tools to help you get to the root of what is holding you back. Once you know how to identify what it is, you will have the power to change it.

Before we move on I would like to take the Henry Ford quote and take it up a few notches past your thinking mind…

“You do not attract what you want, you attract what you are.”
-Wayne Dyer

In other words, you cannot just be more positive on the surface for good things to happen for you, it goes much deeper than that.

The reason positive thinking isn’t working for you is because you have underlying subconscious beliefs that contradict the positive thoughts…

Imagine you have the beautiful house you want to sell, and everything on the main level and upper level is amazing, just perfect. Your potential buyers walk in and are blown away, but when they go down into the basement they see the foundation is cracked beyond repair. Now what? Does it even matter how perfect the upstairs looks if the foundation is cracked?

If you are into positive thinking that is GREAT, you are doing better than 99% of people. But if you are not attracting the life or business you want, there may be a crack in the foundation…

What do these cracks in the foundation look like within us?

Self sabotaging beliefs
Subconscious limiting beliefs.
Fear based beliefs

Thoughts like:, “You don’t deserve him, you aren’t good enough.” Or “You couldn’t EVER charge $_____ for your program.” But because you are trying to think positive you may just consciously try to override those thoughts and say, “I DO deserve a good guy,” or “YES they will pay more for my expertise.” BUT, that is how you get caught in the positive thinking trap because deep down you don’t really believe what you are telling yourself.

How to move beyond positive thinking when it isn’t working for you….

You have to become a little detective and investigate where these thoughts are coming from. Your thoughts stem from our underlying beliefs both in yourself, and in the stories about life we were taught during childhood.

These belief systems or stories come from our parents, friends, teachers, and society as a whole. The challenge with some of these belief systems is it is all you know. But in reality, they are not fact, they are fiction, a fiction that you bought into long ago.

Take a certain subject matter in your business that isn’t where you want it to be. Maybe you have a hard time asking for business with potential clients. Maybe there is some fear there around money or success. You could spend a little time digging into your relationship and beliefs around money. Were you taught that “Money doesn’t grow on trees,” or perhaps, “Money is the root of all evil.”

These underlying beliefs are sabotaging your business. No matter how hard you try to think positively about your business’s success on a conscious level, you have a huge crack in your foundation subconsciously, that says, you don’t really want to be successful because “Money is the root of all evil.”

If your conscious and subconscious are not in alignment, they are actually working against each other…

This is what happens so often with dieting and weight loss. For example, let’s say, consciously, a women wants to loose weight, but unconsciously she has a subconscious belief that food makes her feel loved or safe. Perhaps she learned this behavior as a child when she didn’t get the love and support she needed. She learned that food is a good substitute for that love, and now she cannot loose that weight until she lets go of the underlying, self sabotaging, belief.

This is why people get so discouraged when trying to think positive, YES, it is important, but it is only a small fraction of the battle, you have to dig deep, in order to get the core belief system on board.

That is why Wayne Dyer’s quote is so powerful, you really do create and/or attract what you are, not just what you consciously want.

Moving forward…

If you have been trying to change your mindset, and it just isn’t working for you. It is possible you may have some subconscious beliefs holding you back.

Take some time with yourself and dig into the deeper issues. This is where lasting change will occur.

For more information about how to identify and clear those negative beliefs, check out this blog post here or consider signing up for my online course, “The Connection to Close”. We address all of this and much more, so you can get your rockstar, abundant, sales mindset working for you inside and out.

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Jana NIksa

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